Sometimes you just outgrow people, sometimes you just outgrow yourself, sometimes you just outgrow your environment, sometimes you outgrow who you wanted to be, and sometimes you outgrow who you Became. It might have all been positive. You may have come a long way. But sometimes you have to move on. Sometimes you just outgrow people.
You do not need to hope them. You don’t need to cut them off. But you do not need to distance yourself from them if you want to live your best life. Maybe that is what is best for them too. That person may have had only good intentions for you. They might have given you everything they could. But sometimes you have to move on. Not in a negative way. In a positive way. For your growth, and for theirs.
Outgrow Yourself First!

You should surround yourself with people who are good for your mental health. People who give you energy, not drain it from you, people who light you up not those who dim your light people who make you smile when you hear their names or their call coming in. Those friends who you could go days, weeks, months without seeing you but when they do, the bond is still strong, because you care for each other.
Surround yourself with people who push you to do better. No drama or negativity. Just higher goals and higher motivation. Good times and positive energy. No jealousy or hate. simply bringing out the absolute best in each other.
Warrren Buffet
Effect That Really Affects.
One of the greatest realizations any human can have is the effect people around you have on your life. They say you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. That does not just count in financial terms. It also means energy. You are the average of the positivity (or negativity) of the 5 people you spend the most time with. The average of the happiness (or lack of it) of the 5 people you spend the most time with. You are the average of the kindness (or lack of it) of the 5 people you spend the most time with.

People can really bless you or mess you with their energy. You have to be so careful who you allow in your energy space on a consistent basis. So many people think that they do not have a choice. You do. Your energy is your choice. You decide who you let into your space and if you let negative people in, It’s always your choice if you are going to let their negative energy in. You have to remember to take care of yourself.
Stop Worrying For Others!
Sometimes we get so caught up in worrying about other people that we forget to look after ourselves first. You can not show up the best version of yourself if you are not taking care of you first. And the first step to take care of yourself is giving yourself time by yourself.

To work on yourself. If you are really going to take care of yourself, it’s also very important you evaluate your circle. Who you are spending the majority of your time with? Are they making you feel better about yourself or worse? Are they supporting you and the direction you want to go in life, Or taking you down a path you don’t want to travel? Is this behavior aligned with yours? Does it feel better with them or without them? If you have outgrown these people maybe it’s time to limit your interactions with them and explore what life might be like in a more positive space?
Only you can decide that, and take those steps if you believe it is right for you? But most people don’t take that step. The fear of the unknown keeps them locked in the prison of negativity. A gated community of misery and toxic energy. You have to find the courage to free yourself from the prison. You deserve better, but you will only get better if you are brave enough to explore life with people who are in alignment with your values.
Outgrow Your Circle With Your Alignments.
Choose people who choose you, choose to be the one who lifts others up as well choose to be the friend, the partner, the person you want most in your own life. Pay attention to the people who care. Those who are always there. those who want better for you, those who share the same values. Those are your people. If someone is treating you badly, you have to remember, there is something wrong with them, not you. There are the ones who need the work, not you. Good people do not go around putting others down. People who feel good about themselves don’t go around putting others down. They just don’t as the saying goes,
Life is so much simpler when you stop explaining yourself to others and just do what is right for you. Do what is right for you. Because that is what is right for everyone. Trust that. When you get to that place, where you have no need to impress others or seek validation, and just be yourself. And that is when your freedom will begin.
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