“Love is a canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination.”
When we say that we love somebody like our parents, family, friends, and spouse what does it means? How can we describe how much we love them? Is there any parameter? And if we talk about the present time everyone is falling in love without even realizing that this is not loved. When we compared to old times, seems like people share their feelings and hardly spoke about it but there was a true emotion of love existed. But in recent times, we have so much to talk about love like TV shows, Valentine activities, on Valentine markets are full of cards and red color material.
Sadly, after giving a lot of time to these things, we are actually not given attention to the real point that materializes your feelings is not love. According to me, love itself is nothing it has several factors when they come together under one roof then we surely say that yeah this is love. These are the factors that I think should be involved if it is truly a TRUE LOVE.
Essence of love
“Our humanity comes to its fullest bloom in giving. We become beautiful people when we give whatever we can give: a smile, a handshake, an embrace, a word of love, a present, and a part of our life…all of our life.”
Like every good recipe, it contains several flavors and ingredients that come together to bring out a tasty dish. Exactly same, everything has its subparts that help that thing to be good. even more, love also absorbs these things in itself that helps to accelerate the feeling of love we have for others. And if we don’t use proper quotient of everything in balance way may be the flavor of love can be bitter.
Care is a necessity, not an option!
“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”
If u love someone, the first thing that we have to do to take care of that person or that relation at any cost. Not like only on mother’s day, father’s day, birthday, etc. but u have to be there for that person in their sorrows or happiness. It is not an option that if your free time or available then only you show love and concern no! Even a plant needs care and attention to blossom then it is a matter of living beings. It is a basic factor that nurtures love very beautifully.
Trust would be a flawless crust
when we try to bind anything we need a material that holds two things together with adhesive force. Trust acts like that force in any relation. If we can’t trust that person to whom we love then I think there is nothing that can hold that relation longer! Just have faith in yourself and on others and give a proper chance to others to speak their heart out. Don’t restrict things so that they can get ugly. Just be yourself and allows others also to be.
Fidelity turns out superbly
“LOYALTY IS AN EXPENSIVE THING, DON’T EXPECT IT FROM CHEAP PEOPLE”
whenever I see the condition of love in this modern era, this quote comes in my mind. We are so connected with other things that loyalty is vanishing from our lives. We ditch so easily to our friends and family over materialistic things and we don’t even bother to feel bad for it. That is the truth of the modern world. Materialistic things are dearer to us then our relation.
Respect is the focal point
“DO RESPECT AND HAVE RESPECT”
This is the key point of any relation. If you can’t respect somebody then don’t disrespect them. And as much as we give respect to everyone it always turns out good in our favor. In today’s world, we make fun of each other and say ooh we are just kidding, NO! You are not allowed to make fun of others just to please yourself. This is the turning of any relationship that ends on a very painful highway.
Self-abnegation is compulsory
“When we know love matters more than anything, and we know that nothing else REALLY matters, we move into the state of surrender. Surrender does not diminish our power, it enhances it.”
EGO is just a three letter word but how much destruction it can make in our lives I guess we all somehow aware of it. If we love our relations, we must aside our egos and think about the relation first. Love should be selfless, we should not love somebody to this intention that they should love us back no, love them because u need them don’t ask or begged it. do you ever imagine the love between the mother and her child? Mothers are so selfless that they tolerate all the pain just to bring out a life in this world that will be a full-time job for her but in spite that, she only care and love her children. This is the example of true selflessness.
Love would be eternal
“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” ― Dr. Seuss,
Not every relationship is everlasting. It takes a lot of effort from both sides to cross the river with the same calm and patience, honesty and dedication only then we experienced an everlasting relation.
Illation on attainment of love
So if you say that you love your parents, then just wait and a have deep look into yourself and try to analyze are you seriously giving them true love or only a word LOVE! If you have that feeling OHH! I lost my true love, but then recollect all those memories and decide whether it was or not!
“Let your boat of life be light, packed with only what you need — a homely home and simple pleasures, one or two friends, worth the name, someone to love and someone to love you, a cat, a dog, and a pipe or two, enough to eat and enough to wear, and a little more than enough to drink; for thirst is a dangerous thing.” ― Jerome K. Jerome
