In the hope for money, In the hope for success, we end up chasing the wrong thing and we make a mess in life. We end up with less than we started with. End up with more issues that we bargained for. Whilst climbing that ladder and that stairway; we forget why we started climbing in the first place.
Once the king of Bhutan was asked by an interviewer, What the GDP of Bhutan was? He was surprised and shocked. In the reply, he said “In Bhutan, we just don’t measure the GDP. Instead of just measuring the Gross Domestic Product, We measure Gross National Happiness”. In the process of getting older, we forget the real goal of life.
If we could make a little less and spend more time doing what we love, Would that make us happier? We should not trade our happiness on what we think we need. Things can never make us happy because they are temporary and limited. But experience will last forever. Too many people are working hard on things they don’t love, to spend money they don’t have, to buy things they don’t need, to impress people they don’t like.
Don’t mix the happiness with materialistic things!
When we create our identity around what we do; a career, a job, an occupation. We can never be happy because we basing our happiness on something external. But when we create an identity around who we are and what we want to be and become, that anything is possible. And remember, we become successful by what we get, but we become happy by what we give. Don,t get the two confuse!
Realize the real happiness.
Everything we lose in life is not a loss! Sometimes we have to give up everything that is killing us, even it’s killing us to let go. Once we remove the old, we create space for new. For being happy, I think these six elements must be removed from life.
Let’s start by removing guilt. Guilt is to the spirit what pain is to the body. Mistakes are always forgivable if we are courageous enough to admit them. And remember, the best apology is to our selves or anyone else, is changed behavior.
Excuses are the lies that we tell ourselves so that we don’t have to think that anything is our fault.
You literally don’t have to be friend with anyone who doesn’t support you and brings your energy down. It’s ok to start outgrowing people that are not growing. Some people are better left in your past no matter how bad you want them to be in your present.
makesAnxiety is like sitting on a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but doesn’t get you anywhere. Overthinking ruins you. It ruins the situation, It twist things around, It makes you worry, It just makes everything worse than it actually is.
We lose ourselves trying to please everyone else than lose everyone trying to refind ourselves.
We are defined by the stories we tell ourselves every single day, moment to moment. ” I am not good enough.”, ” I can’t do this.”, ” It’s not meant for me.” Recognize when a phase, a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over and let it go. Moving on doesn’t have to be a dramatic event. You can simply choose to be forward with peace and clarity. And never remove ‘You’ from the equation.
The more thing that we see, the more things that we want. Things just can’t make us happy. And I know that almost everybody knows this and heard it before. It’s sound like a cliche but the way we live means that we do not really understand it.
Happiness is how we feel about ourselves when we are by ourselves. When we see all of these adverts, they make us think that we need to add something to our lives to make them better. Not realizing that actually, we feel happier when we subtract things from our lives and make them simpler.
A day we see some branded clothes, we buy them then what? They will not be in fashion in some weeks or a month later. We buy some shoes at any outlet, we buy them. But again they will not be in fashion after some weeks or a month later.
So, the thing is when we buy something, we are not actually buying that thing. We are trying to buy the feeling that we think, we are missing. So, when we watch that watch, that bag, that car, what we are actually looking for actually is recognization, popularity, and self-worth and that’s the thing
We have grown up seeing that adverts and television on the street and now on social media. That makes us believe that if we wear this. If we wear this, we’ll be more confident. If you have this, you will be more attractive. That’s what we have to ask ourselves – why do we want that thing? Do we want them to make other people feel jealous? Do we want them to compare ourselves to someone else? Do we want them because someone else has them? If the answer is any of those things, we will always feel let down.
Just Love Yourself!
If the answer is, we feel more confident, we feel greater self-worth then it’s different. The problem is, we tell ourselves that when I get this then I’ll be happy. We are basically delaying and postponing our happiness based on some materials things when what we don’t realize is that, If we don’t love, what we do every day, it won’t matter what we have. And we can have all the most amazing things in the world but if we don’t love who we are, if we don’t love what we do, nothing can replace that feeling. And we all know that we can’t buy those things. We have to build them. We have to create them. We have to find them.
Concluded it all!
My opinion is not that we can’t have nice things and we shouldn’t want them, it’s when we believe that these things will be going to make us happy. That’s where we fall short. Having nice things and wanting them is absolutely fine, but when we believe that having that thing in our life is going to change and transform how we feel, that’s where we go wrong. Not realizing that the only thing that makes us happy is only ourselves.
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