Over 2 million people get proposed to in the United States every single year. We all know how the story goes. He asked her, “Will you marry me?”. She said, “yes!”. We get excited about our wedding day but forget about what it meant to be in a marriage.
Definition Of Marriage.
The definition of marriage “A ceremony usually with its accompanying festivities” OR “The state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law”. Which one are we prepared for? Let’s look into the money behind the wedding. 72 billion dollars a year spent on weddings. The average wedding budget is around $20000. $1016 is the average cost of wedding rings for the bride and the groom. 19 billion a year is spent on wedding gift registries. 8 billion dollars a year is spent on honeymoons. The average honeymoon budget is around $3657. The decorations, the outfits, the food.
Difference Between A Marriage And A Wedding!
We want to have incredible weddings but we also want to build incredible marriages. We invest in wedding planners but we don’t have marriage mentors. How much stronger would our marriages be if we spent our time and energy in learning to grow together, getting guidance and advice? Weddings need planning, marriages require commitment, wedding need organization, marriages requires adaptability, weddings need a date, marriages need a lifetime, wedding needs a guest list, marriages requires community, weddings need a set of vows, marriages required consistent gratitude, weddings need an outfit, marriages requires complete transparency, weddings need promises, marriages require practically, weddings need words, marriages require actions. We all want to have a marriage more beautiful than our wedding but invest the other way around.
A Small Wedding And A Long-term Marriage.
It’s better to have a small wedding and a big marriage than to have a big wedding and a small marriage. We are ready to walk down the aisle but are we ready to walk the thousand miles journey of life together? We all can have an amazing day but not at the expense of an amazing life.
Difference Between Love And Likeness.
Once a student asked her teacher, “What is the difference between “I Like You” and “I Love You”?” .The teacher answered it beautifully ” Well its like a flower. If you like a flower, you pluck it. But if you love a flower, you water it and nurture it daily and watch it grow.”
There is such a thin line between like and love and because of it, we make so many mistakes in our relationships. When we want something at the moment, we take it and don’t think any further. We do whatever we want to get that feeling of pleasure, not realizing that we are neither satisfied by that pleasure and nor will that thing last. When we pluck a flower, not only will that flower die, but we can’t experience it for any longer than that moment. When you water it and take care of it daily, you can experience it daily.
Our Psyche of Attraction.
We have been wired towards an instant gratification, instant pleasure mindset. All of the adverts that we see, whether they are online or offline are geared to driving us towards making instant decisions for instant promises of pleasure. The catch is not only does that instant pleasure not satisfying us. That feelings doesn’t last.
We are so used to seeing all the straplines and headlines on the internet. “Learn this language in five minutes”. “Get the ideal body in ten minutes a day”. “Become a millionaire in twelve months”. Now, all of these sounds brilliant. The problem is they are not real, they are not true, they are false promises. The reason why it works is that it appeals to one of the most basic human desires: situational improvement without major resource investment.
Ofcourse you can pick up few words in another language, or shed a few pounds of weight. If that was your goal, or maybe you will make a little bit more money. But real knowledge, real awareness, real fitness, real business all of these things take time. I wonder how people say that they don’t have time in life.I want to ask them if you do not have time then what do you have? In fact all we have in our life is only time and nothing else. The area where we lack is the utilization of time. We don’t utilize it properly and then make inappropriate instant decisions and ruins our life.
Love; The Basic Ingredient Of A Succesful Marriage!
Real relationship, real connection, real purpose takes time. And If you just love that relationship, connection, or purpose, you will find no difficulty to bear the time. Naturally, internet headlines focus on the short term instead of the long term. Because most of us would never click on something if it said, “Learn a language in five years with dedicated daily practice.”. We would not click on something that said, ” Here is the one-hour workout you need to do every single day.” And we would not click on the one that said, “If you want to be a millionaire here are ten failures that you will go through in year one, how broke you might be by year three or you might make it by year nine.”
The important lesson here is: If you want meaning, if you want purpose, if you want fulfilment, those things take time. Just like that flower, if you want that instant pleasure to pluck it.You can have it in the moment. But if you want to build something of value, if you want to create something of impact, or you want to make a difference, all of those things will take time.
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