Whether you’re in the midst of a long-term relationship or navigating your way through a new one, there is one thing, in particular, you should always pay attention to when it comes to giving off the right vibe: your body language. Your body can speak louder than words. But is it saying what you want it to say? Learn to send your messages clearly with these body language do’s and don’ts.
1) Eye for an Eye
Celebrity Matchmaker Samantha Daniels reveals eye contact is very important because it shows that you are interested in what he is saying and that you are paying attention.
“This is universally applicable, whether you’re having a deep conversation with your boyfriend or are trying to connect with someone new on a first date.”
To put it simply, eye contact is talking in the absence of words. Eyes can communicate a wide range of messages and sensitivity. Be extra conscious about looking your man directly in the eye, even though it may feel more comfortable looking away.
2) Body Positioning
Matchmaker and Dating Coach Suzanne K. Oshima forewarns both men and women usually don’t realize which way their body faces, and it is very telling as to whether or not the other person is interested.
“If someone’s torso, shoulders and legs are facing toward the other person, they are showing interest”, Oshima says. “But if their torso, shoulders and legs are facing away or off to the side, they are either not sure or they are blocking the person from getting to know them.”
3) Crossed Arms
This one is a no-no for obvious reasons.
“Crossed arms essentially make you look closed off, unwelcoming, and disinterested,” Daniels says. “If you want men to approach you on the dating scene, you need to appear as open and welcoming as possible.”
4) Group Formation
Speaking of looking closed off, be attentive when out with your ladies. When a group of gals are out on the dating scene, they tend to stand in a circle.
“Circles are closed off and leave no opening for a guy to join, which makes it difficult for men to approach them,” Daniels explains. “When you’re out on the town, try to stand in a ‘C’ shape to give guys an opening.”
Standing at the edge of the ‘C’ also makes you the easiest to approach.
5) Take a Stand
Your mother wasn’t lying when she told you to stand up straight.
“A good posture on a date shows your confidence level in who you are and your self worth,” Oshima says. “A woman who doesn’t stand up straight, or has her shoulders rounded forward may be perceived as shy or with low confidence.”
6) Turn that Frown Upside Down
Without a doubt smiling is the number one, the most important thing you can wear while dating and in a relationship.
“A smile on your face shows that you are a happy person… and men gravitate toward happy women,” Daniels says.
What other social cues deter men? Can guys be guilty of the same things as well? From round off in the comments below!
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