There are basically two types of people. People who accomplish things, and people who claim to have accomplished things. The first group is less crowded.Mark Twain
The Vision Frame.
There are two frames that we can have in our life. Two ways we can view every situation and every outcome. One is a positive lens and the other is an opportunistic lens. We can either look at everything bad that happens to us as negative, or we can look at it as an opportunity. Because we all know that if we look at life with a red pair of glasses, you see red. If we look at life with a green pair of glasses, you see green. We see what we choose to see by the lens we place in front of ourselves.
When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at changeWayne Dyer
In the negativity frame, the first frame, rejection seems like the end. Rejection feels like the crews gone home, the credits are rolling and you are all alone. In the opportunistic lens, in the second frame, rejection feels like the bend in the road. Rejection is like a moment to press, pause .and pivot. Reminds you to not do it for applause and give it everything and more. Notice how one makes you feel like it’s all over and the other makes you feel like it’s started. The crazy thing is there is no reality apart from the one you are creating right now. There is only the reality you make on a daily basis.
Whether you think, you can or you can’t, you are rightHenry Ford
People Always Doubt Or Hate.
We all know that there will always be the doubters and the haters, but you either improve or you prove them right. The choice is yours. So often we feel we are being left out, no one like us. That no one wants to speak to us, to connect with us. Not realizing that they are as nervous as we are, as worried as we are. Nothing seems to be going our way, so we feel nothing will go our way and nothing continues to go our way! It’s about whether you want an experience to continue or transforms. You get to choose the mindset, the lens that paves you on the right path.
One mindset keeps you where you are, the other mindset keeps you moving forward. Our negative lens blocks us from our real potential. It blocks us from trying something new. This lens blocks us from believing there are new opportunities out there for each and everyone for us. It’s as simple as saying, I am changing the way I think. I am not letting doubt, fear, and anxiety feels me into believing they are my friends and protecting me when they are actually prisoning me. I am not going to live believing that everything and everyone is against. Because the truth is, the reality is. Sometimes we are so close, close to the other side, close to a new start, close to a new opportunity and we give up. We step away, we let it go when we are just a few steps away.
It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you seeHenry David Thoreou.
We think we know what everyone is going through, but the truth is we have no idea. And for those of you being put down or bullied or pushed back, recognize that if someone is making you feel like you are not good enough, you are allowing them to do that. See, when someone says that we are beautiful, we believe them for like a moment. But when someone tells us that we are ugly, we believe them for a lifetime.
Our mind constantly tricks us into amplifying the negatives and minimizing the positives, but it’s our choice to not let that in. Accept that you are worthy, you are enough. Claim your wellness and your belonging. The more that you believe that you are worthy, the more likely you are to attract it.
Take Care Of Your Emotions.
It’s so tempting to runaway your emotions or avoid them or bury them, but it takes a lot more courage to face them. To write them down, to address them. We have to learn to carry ourselves. This is not a negative message. It’s a message for long term growth. It’s important that our health and happiness starts with us first, not your partner, not your job, not your friends, not your family. Happiness is how we feel about ourselves when we are by ourselves.
People Of Our Choice!
Often we feel amazing when we are surrounded by people, but when we are alone, we feel lonely and disconnected. When there are space and silence, we feel unhappy and depressed. It’s in those moments when we realize how we feel about ourselves is so much more important. We all have a choice to let things in, whether it is energy, words, feelings or emotion. It’s our responsibility to keep our space the way we want it to be.
And we all have to recognize that our words and actions have an impact on others. There are so many people today dealing with so much that even the smallest action can become a huge trigger in their personal lives. Recognize your current situation is not your final destination and you don’t need to make future predictions based on your current dilemma.
The Type Of People We Need.
The three areas where we need mentors, coaches, and guides are care, competence, and character. There are some people in our life that will always give us care. Their main focus will always be our mental and physical health. The second type of mentor and coach that we need in our life is competence, someone who has the skillset in the area that we wanna grow in, someone who’s living their passion, someone who is actually an expert in an area where we want to develop. And finally, with those in our life, of deep character, people who can guide us in the toughest of times. People who can be honest with us when no one else can and people who can share their truth with us when we are at our biggest and most challenging moments. But everyone has at least one. And don’t forget this. No one is coming to save you. You have to save yourself. No one is coming to save your life. You have to change yourself.
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