It is very common, rather common sense that an alone person is a lonely person. It’s just we have made up this notion in our mind so concretely that we not being able to see beyond it. Well let me tell something very straight; an alone or the one who has been living alone not necessarily be the lonely or sad person. There is a huge difference between living alone and living a, lone sad life.
Now to make things comprehensible, being lonely is not the same thing as being alone. By definition loneliness is sadness caused because one has no friends or company. But the truth is people experience loneliness even when they have friends or company. You experience loneliness in your relationship or friendships too. Meanwhile, being alone means being on your own, and trust me, there is nothing more fulfilling than that. Not all human beings are made the same way. Everyone has own mind regarding what they want from life.
We all have altered explanations of what happiness is and what it means to each of us. Regardless of what challenges, crossroads, and lifestyle changes you come across in your life, at the end of the day, your happiness is what truly matters most. Whether you’re in a relationship, have children, have a busy work life or whatever the conditions are, it’s important to know how to be happy alone. When you know what makes you really happy, exercise self-care, take care of yourself and dodge your comfort zone, you will be able to see how powerful being happy alone can be.
Love yourself first:
You need to discover life, explore yourselves, nurture through challenges, learn from mistakes, get out of your comfort zone, know your true potential and feel comfortable in your own skin. The moment you love yourself, you become invulnerable to loneliness. Living alone doesn’t mean that people are lonely or unhappy; neither does it mean that people are less social. But it may mean that people are more self- centered and therefore less anxious about larger social issues.
Breakdown the common mindset:
It is supposed that you don’t have a life, you don’t have anyone, no-one wants you, and that single people are selfish and self-centered, whereas, research essentially shows that single people are more kind and likely to volunteer and so on. It’s completely okay to acknowledge yourself as a different kind of human being, the one who is not made to do the conventional common things, like be in a relationship, get married or have children. It’s okay to want different things from life and go against the common mindset of society; if that truly makes you happy.
Try to get the other perspective:
Very few people want to live alone forever. It’s not a life goal, but something that people choose to do at certain points in their lives. The sense of freedom, control of one’s own time and space, the search for solitude and the capacity to socialise on our own terms, which is appealing to millions of people around the world. Today, people live alone wherever they can afford to do so and have the freedom to determine their own fate. Probably, most singles are interested in finding the perfect partner, but they are not always on the watch out. They get annoyed when their married friends and family members talk to them as if that’s all that matters. Too often, we project our own anxieties onto single people, rather than simply trying to understand their own desires and needs.
Human history is full of people living, trapped, in marriages that are lonely and isolating. Living alone can be a way of escaping that.
Most people confuse living alone with being alone:
Living alone, feeling alone, being lonely, and being isolated are four distinct conditions, but we often combine them. Single people, who live alone, are generally neither lonely nor isolated. They are actually more likely to spend time with friends and neighbours than married people, and volunteer in community services too. Social isolation is troublesome, and so is loneliness. But living alone need not be. In fact, we can see it as a sign of achievement, because it involves prosperity, social security, freedom of women, and cultural broad-mindedness! It’s hard to go solo in a poor nation or neighbourhood; in contrast, it’s now everywhere in the world’s most developed and open societies.
But of course nothing comes easy in this world. People will always judge you no matter what you do. The people around you see you as a project and they want to fix you up with this person and that person. But the thing is you are not broken, just different from the rest of them. An alone person can be a happy and thriving person.
Discover everything you can about yourself, make friends that have similar goals and mindset(never underestimate the importance of friendships in your life), try new hobbies, take time to just breathe and reflect and most importantly enjoy life. You see, being alone is a different story from being lonely. Never perplex them. Be the master of your life and learn how to love yourself on a daily basis.
